“Your thoughts determine your actions, your actions form habits, your habits shape your character, and your character determines your destiny.”

A person’s habits may seem insignificant, but they actually rule our destiny.

Whether in a park or on the grass, we often see signs like this:

“Don’t step on me out of habit. When I feel pain, you will also be hurt.”

Many times, people take shortcuts and habitually do things they shouldn’t do.

When someone does things their own way and sticks to their habitual path, they may think they are avoiding trouble at the time.

But one day, you will realize that some habits, if not given up, can ruin your whole life.

So, people with bad luck and a shallow life must have some bad habits.

Fond of Blaming Others

Three years ago, there was a new person in my brother-in-law’s company.

This new person was well received because he graduated from a famous foreign school.

Initially, my brother-in-law had arranged a good job for him and hoped to become friends with him, maybe even partners in the future.

After working for a while, my brother-in-law’s opinion of him changed.

The supposedly excellent new recruit turned out to be nothing special.

Despite being capable, he made mistakes in every project due to the complexity.

Each time he made a mistake, instead of solving the problem or cooperating with colleagues, he blamed others.

Once my brother-in-law saw an error in a project the new person was handling, he pointed it out, hoping for a correction.

Unexpectedly, the new person insisted on finding the person responsible in the company, leading to chaos and discontent among colleagues. Eventually, my brother-in-law had to dismiss him.

Some people may be intelligent but lack emotional intelligence in their interactions, with a bad habit of always blaming others.

It is essential to work together under the same roof for work to improve continuously.

Many companies strongly discourage people who shift blame as it can greatly impact the company’s unity.

No matter how high one’s education level is, if they enjoy blaming others, trying to distance themselves when issues arise in the company, no one would want them to stay.

Education may open doors to good companies, but if the habit of blaming others is not corrected, they may still face dismissal.

Not Knowing How to Fight for Themselves

Is destiny terrifying? No, I realized I controlled it while struggling with it.

— Shakespeare

Shakespeare was an outstanding individual with a great reputation.

His greatness did not come from having a golden key handed to him by fate but from daring to challenge destiny.

Many people complain about the unfairness of fate but fail to realize they need to fight for themselves.

Good things don’t just fall from the sky; even if they do, you need to open your mouth to catch them, or else they won’t land in your lap.

In college, there was a classmate who excelled in all subjects but never fought for scholarships or awards.

He found the application process bothersome and didn’t want to trouble himself, so he never tried to compete.

Despite excelling in courses, he graduated without any certificates. Due to the lack of honor certificates, he couldn’t apply for outstanding graduate awards.

While others found good jobs, he struggled to find one despite his excellence, simply because he lacked proof of his abilities.

Sometimes, one shouldn’t habitually avoid fighting for something that rightfully belongs to them.

Knowing how to fight for things can lead to using them one day, and they will help you along the way.

Bullying the Weak and Fearing the Strong

Some people enjoy bullying the kind-hearted but fear the ruthless.

A kind-hearted person warms our lives and sometimes offers help, yet they may not know how to be grateful.

Someone who appears stern or fierce may be kept at a distance, but secretly, they are admired and feared.

One should learn to reciprocate kindness. While fearing others may be natural, as a higher being, one should also have their own principles.

When you treat those who are good to you with kindness, you will find more friends around you willing to help.

If you continue to be ungrateful, fearing those who are assertive and bullying the weak, you will end up friendless.

As the saying goes, “More friends, more paths.”

Lacking friends means missing out on opportunities when facing challenges in the future without anyone’s help.

Approaching Every Situation with a Task-Oriented Mindset

One should not approach every situation with the mindset of completing a task.

Humans are naturally inclined to be lazy, so when faced with difficulty, they often seek shortcuts.

When someone is lazy, they tend to approach situations with a task-oriented mindset out of habit.

What you do is observed by others. If you always have a task-oriented attitude, even your superiors won’t value you.

Some people handle situations with a task-oriented mindset, but later, when things go wrong, they face consequences from their leaders.

Approaching situations with a task-oriented mindset is irresponsible and a bad habit that needs to be changed.

One should bear the responsibilities that come with their position. If you persist with a task-oriented attitude, you will eventually face consequences.

At times, approaching situations with a task-oriented mindset can lead to significant losses, compromising social fairness.

Being more careful in your actions is a sign of responsibility to others and yourself.

You may think that as long as you complete a task, everything is fine, and no one will notice.

But if one day the truth comes out, it will be too late for regrets.

Some bad habits must be eliminated. Otherwise, they can ruin one’s life.

A dam can collapse from an ant hole. Habits, even if small, can influence a person’s entire life.