You are who you are, which determines who you will meet and associate with, which in turn shapes who you will become.

In real life, there’s a saying, “Know the face, not the heart.” It’s true that only by choosing the right people, can you open up more possibilities in life.

No matter what kind of people or things we encounter in real life, we should learn to judge character. These three types of people, no matter how good they seem, should not be trusted, or else you’ll face endless troubles.

Recently, a reader shared a letter with me. In the letter, she described her situation like this:

She was very close friends with a girl. They grew up together since childhood, attended the same college, and shared everything.

In college, they talked about love, and she discussed many emotional issues with her. I remember when she had her first heartbreak, she cried on my shoulder for a long time. I felt really sorry for her and wanted to give that guy who hurt her a piece of my mind.

Later, she slowly moved on from the heartbreak, regained her happiness, and I was genuinely happy for her.

Afterward, I met my current boyfriend.

We met during a competition where we were opponents. After the competition, we became good friends, and our relationship deepened over time. As we communicated, we grew closer, and eventually, we officially started dating. I informed her about it immediately because she was my best friend. The three of us often hung out together, chatting and having meals.

My boyfriend is reserved and not good at cheering up girls. I complained to my friend about this many times, and each time, she comforted me.

I thought she genuinely cared for me. However, during our relationship, I noticed a girl sending flirtatious messages to my boyfriend secretly. Initially, I ignored it, and my boyfriend didn’t mention it either.

But as time passed, I became more suspicious of their relationship. Many times, my friend met my boyfriend behind my back. At first, I didn’t find it suspicious, but their actions made me increasingly angry.

Eventually, the truth came out. They confessed to me first. In front of me, my friend held my boyfriend’s hand and said he loved her. After hearing that, I didn’t confront my boyfriend because I knew his actions were an admission. Now, I have completely cut ties with them and believe they are not worth my attention.

In life, we may misjudge people, but when we do, we must learn to cut our losses in time to minimize harm to ourselves.

Can’t Trust Hypocrites

“Hypocrisy cannot create anything because it is nothing itself.”

In real life, we often encounter people who are nice to us in person but criticize us behind our backs. These are the typical hypocrites, saying one thing to your face and another behind your back.

The longer you associate with such people, the greater your losses will be. Learn to stay away from them to make your life better.

Ungrateful People are Untrustworthy

“Life requires a grateful heart to create, and a grateful heart needs life to nourish.”

As the saying goes, “A drop of water owes a burst of spring.” In real life, when faced with those willing to help us, we should also learn to appreciate. Relationships between people are mutual. Only when you treat others kindly will they treat you the same.

But all kindness should be reserved for deserving people. When dealing with ungrateful individuals, there’s no need to be overly concerned because they only care about themselves. No matter how good you are to them, they will only think about their own interests. The longer you interact with such people, the more damage you will suffer.

Selfish People are Untrustworthy

Benefits are important to everyone, but focusing too much on them loses human touch. Such people are usually ruthless and only think about themselves when dealing with others.

The most crucial aspect of human interaction is mutual respect. If one can’t even do that, how can they coexist peacefully?

In real life, making friends is an art. Those who understand the art of friendship are emotionally intelligent because birds of a feather flock together. Everyone’s time and energy are limited. Only when you spend time with deserving people will you have more possibilities.

Learn to engage with positive individuals so you can be influenced positively. If you live in a circle of intrigue, it will make you more anxious. Thus, the environment around a person is equally important.

By engaging with worthwhile people and things, your life will have more possibilities.