Emotional experts say:

Many people believe that only by interacting with others can they live a better life, but I disagree. The ultimate way to live is actually to be alone.

Being alone is not the same as being lonely.

If someone feels lonely, even if they are surrounded by people, their heart remains lonely. On the other hand, if someone has a rich inner world, even if they are always alone, they will still feel content and happy.

One’s inner world needs to be enriched by oneself, not by the presence of others.

When young, people enjoy crowds and lively places, but as they approach retirement, they realize that solitude is the best state of life.

Embrace Silence to Cleanse the Soul

Life is a journey of self-cultivation, and it is only towards the end that one allows peace to cleanse the soul.

Life is a process of cultivation. After experiencing many things in youth, one starts to appreciate peace and quiet.

The pressures and troubles of the world and the noise of time make people endure too much stress and distress.

After struggling in the workplace for a long time, one discovers how beautiful rural life is; after being disturbed by work for a lifetime, one yearns for some quiet time alone.

A neighbor retired a few years ago.

After retirement, the neighbor disappeared, only to be found later that they had gone back to their hometown in the countryside.

While the city is more convenient and surrounded by children, enjoying family bliss, this retiree chose solitude, saying, “Being with my children is too noisy.”

After moving to the countryside, the retiree planted many flowers and plants, sat in the small courtyard sipping tea alone. Despite being by themselves, they led a poetic life that many envied.

After retirement, one must find their own space, where they can truly enjoy a better life.

Sometimes, finding a place to be alone is essential to cleanse the soul.

Learn to Be Alone to Think Independently

Scientist Hawking said, “You can immobilize my feet, but you cannot stop my brain from thinking.”

One should never lose the ability to think, even after retirement.

Amidst the hustle and bustle, societal views may cloud one’s judgment, and the surrounding advice can be overwhelming.

It is only when one is alone that they truly discover what they want.

Some may question what more there is after retirement, but retirement is the beginning of a beautiful life.

Some retire at 65 but may live until 95. How should they spend the remaining 30 years?

Therefore, it’s beneficial to spend some time alone after retirement, using it to plan the next steps.

Create a plan, make a schedule, and organize future activities accordingly.

Just like Work, Some Things Should be Let Go

There’s an old saying, “Children and grandchildren bring their blessings with them.”

Parents spend their whole lives for their children, even after retirement.

Some retirees should enjoy their twilight years and live the life they desire, rather than continuing to toil for their children.

There is a proverb: “Tomorrow has its own worries.”

It implies that one should not postpone today’s tasks to tomorrow because there will always be something to do tomorrow.

A retiree should understand that even if they help their children today, their children will encounter new problems tomorrow. How long should they keep helping?

Some elderly choose to live under the same roof as their children, leading to increasing conflicts.

Thus, if retirement is near, it might be wise to prepare a house for oneself, to live independently and avoid troubling the children, gaining more freedom for oneself.

My grandfather started living separately from my parents when I was young. During this time, the relationship between my grandfather and parents was excellent. However, last year, when my grandfather suddenly fell ill, my parents brought him back home.

Soon after returning home, conflicts arose between my parents and grandfather.

Sometimes, distance can create beauty. Regardless of the distance, family members always feel close and familiar when they reunite.

Living under the same roof can lead to many conflicts. Eventually, my grandfather, feeling sad, said, “I would rather live alone than come back to your home!”

Many may think that living alone is tough for the elderly, and they may feel sorry for them.

However, the elderly have different habits and desires compared to the younger generation, so they prefer solitude.

Being alone doesn’t mean abandoning people; it’s about giving the elderly some space. A retiree who wants to be alone isn’t because they don’t love their family, but because they want to conclude their lives on their terms.

The ultimate way to live is solitude, and retirees should understand this.

Throughout life, working for others and children, one should live for themselves as retirement approaches.

Choose a sky of your own, learn to be alone, and you will find your own happiness in the world. Never do things you don’t want to do, and never force yourself to be with people you don’t like.