Three Miao said, “The most important thing in life is to have the ability to love others, not to be loved. If we don’t know how to love others, how can we expect to be loved?”

How can we have the ability to love others?

Naturally, it’s about understanding that love is selfless and giving. The most important thing is to know what the other person wants, not what we can give.

Love is not the scorching sun in summer, but a gentle breeze on a hot day; love is not the frost in winter, but the warmth of coal in the snow.

Quality is essential in any relationship, at any time. If a woman lacks quality, she is a selfish, petty, and overbearing woman. Such a woman not only doesn’t know how to love others but also finds it hard to receive love from others.

Someone once said, “Men are visual animals,” and although they say they care about a woman’s inner beauty, they still prefer women who are beautiful.

But that’s not necessarily true. A woman’s beauty can attract a man for a while, but her inner beauty can attract him for a lifetime.

Praising a woman’s appearance is the most superficial thing, just like Bacon said, “A person with only beauty and no cultivation is not worthy of praise.”

In love, beauty is not worth mentioning; inner cultivation is the deciding factor.

Cicero said, “Cultivation is as important to the mind as food is to the body.”

If a woman doesn’t even have the most basic cultivation, even if she has love, it’s hard to grasp, because she doesn’t know how to love or manage love.

A woman with quality knows how to be tolerant, understanding, and appreciative in love, and can give love to her partner; a woman without quality only has a selfish mentality, only knowing how to demand love from her partner.

Xiao Qing was like this in love; her boyfriend pursued her for a long time before she agreed, and she always felt that she was doing him a favor by agreeing to be with him, so she should naturally enjoy his devotion. If her boyfriend didn’t do something right, she would get angry and scold him.

Although her boyfriend loved her very much, as they spent more time together, he discovered that she was such a woman, and eventually chose to leave.

It’s because Xiao Qing lacked quality in love that she was selfish and didn’t know how to be tolerant, understand, or love, and didn’t know how to give love.

Belle said, “Those who cannot tolerate others are not worthy of being tolerated by others.”

Love is mutual; only when we understand, respect, and tolerate each other can we create a happy love and achieve a beautiful ending. Otherwise, even if two people love each other, they can only end up in vain.

In love, even if a man loves you, a woman should still reflect on herself, reminding herself to make up for her shortcomings. As we grow in love, we should grow together, become more mature, more responsible, and learn to love and know how to love.

Xiao Fang originally had a very happy love, but under her boyfriend’s indulgence, she became more and more selfish, and her temper also grew worse. She thought that no matter how she treated her boyfriend, he would never leave her.

But she was wrong; she didn’t know that even in love, people’s patience has limits. Her boyfriend couldn’t take her bad temper anymore, and they eventually broke up. Even if she regretted it and wanted to make amends, it was too late.

Tagore said, “Pretence can never grow into reality.”

If you think that a man’s love for you is a right to hurt him, then one day you will have to pay back with interest.

If a woman doesn’t even have such quality, how can she know how to love, and how can she keep a man’s heart and achieve happiness?

Selfishness is not part of love; selfish women cannot get love.

Quality is the lowest threshold for love and the most basic configuration for happiness.

A woman must have the most basic quality to be eligible to talk about love, grasp love, get a man’s true heart, and have the possibility of achieving happiness and good fortune.

As Bacon said, “If a person has many small virtues, they may eventually bring good luck.”

As the saying goes, “Details reveal a person’s character.” A person’s quality is reflected in their small actions, which cannot be pretended or disguised.

If you want to grasp your happiness, you need to know how to love; if you want to know how to love, you need to improve your quality and turn your selfishness into selflessness.

Time decides who you will meet in life; your heart decides who you want to appear in your life, and your behavior decides who will stay in the end.