At the beginning of this article, I’d like to ask everyone a question: What’s your understanding of the term “kindness”?

Perhaps each of us has a different answer in our hearts. But I think that no matter what kind of kindness it is, it must have some boundaries.

Unconditional kindness can ultimately become a form of evil.

There are many kind people in life, but sometimes people’s kindness can be easily taken advantage of.

Each of us has a different understanding of kindness. We should maintain kindness, but we should give it to those who truly deserve it. When facing those who take advantage of our kindness without any boundaries, we should dare to say no.

In reality, some kinds of kindness can actually be a form of evil.

Spoiling Children

Education is a significant issue in real life.

Some women become overly caring towards their children after becoming mothers. However, this excessive pampering can turn children into giant babies.

When children make mistakes, they are not scolded or punished, which can actually be a form of harm. You might be spoiling them now, but your behavior will harm them in the long run.

A few days ago, my husband and I had a big disagreement on how to educate our child.

I have a quick temper, so I couldn’t tolerate my child’s mistakes.

I would scold and punish them when necessary, without any pampering.

My husband, on the other hand, is more patient and lenient towards our child, no matter what mistakes they make.

At first, I didn’t realize the severity of the issue, but after my child made a big mistake, I realized that excessive pampering is not a good thing.

After that, I took drastic measures to discipline them.

My husband disagreed with me, and we had a big conflict.

This is a realistic portrayal of many families, where many people spoil their children, giving them the best and not daring to discipline them.

But what’s the true meaning and purpose of educating children?

We all hope our children will become dragons or phoenixes, but we should instill correct worldviews, values, and life perspectives in them from a young age.

Don’t let children develop a dependent mentality, and don’t over-pamper them, as this will only harm them in the end.

As the saying goes, “Teaching without severity is the laziness of the teacher.”

It’s clear that parents play a crucial role in their children’s lives, and only by helping them establish correct worldviews can they grow better.

Lack of Principles and Boundaries

The saying goes, “Good people are often bullied, and good horses are often ridden.”

In reality, if someone is too kind and lacks principles and boundaries, they will eventually be taken advantage of and bullied.

Kindness is a beautiful quality we should maintain, but true kindness is not without principles and boundaries.

We should give understanding and respect to others, but the prerequisite is that they respect us too.

Unconditional kindness will only make others think they can take advantage of us, and we’ll be the ones who suffer in the end.

In life, helping others is a kind deed, but not helping is a basic responsibility.

Don’t let others take advantage of your kindness; maintain kindness with principles and boundaries.

Doing Good Deeds for Personal Gain

Someone does a good deed, hoping others will see it, which is not true kindness; someone does a bad deed, fearing others will know, which is true evil.

In reality, true kindness is silent and selfless.

If someone uses kindness as an excuse to pursue personal gain, that’s not genuine kindness.

True kindness cannot be used for personal gain; genuine kind people won’t boast about their good deeds.

It’s often those who want to gain personal benefits who will exaggerate their kindness.

Doing good deeds is something we should all do, but don’t use kindness as an excuse to deceive others.

True kindness is silent, and genuine kind people only do good deeds without seeking recognition.

Those who do good deeds for personal gain are actually insulting the concept of kindness.

I hope everyone can understand the true meaning of kindness and not let others take advantage of their kindness. Keep your initial intentions, and you’ll be able to do good deeds sincerely.