When it comes to people with bad intentions, we all want to stay away from them. The longer you interact with them, the more harm you’ll suffer. As the saying goes, “Don’t have a heart that plots against others, but have a heart that defends against others.” When facing people who mean no good, we should also learn to stay away from them as soon as possible, which is the only way to minimize the harm they can cause to ourselves.

My friend Lily is a bit of a hothead and speaks her mind, but sometimes her words can be quite annoying.

I remember when we just graduated, everyone was busy looking for a job, but Lily’s family had already arranged a job for her, so she didn’t need to hustle like we did.

Back then, we had a group chat where she would post all sorts of flashy videos, showing off her luxurious life, and at first, we were all envious. However, her behavior eventually made us feel extremely annoyed.

Apart from showing off her life, she often made sarcastic comments, like when our friend got married and shared the wedding photos in the group chat. She started criticizing the groom’s appearance, saying our friend had poor taste, which made the atmosphere quite awkward.

Another time, when a friend bought a new car and shared the news in the group chat, she commented that the car was ugly and not as good as hers. We were all left with a bad impression of her.

Later on, most people in the group stopped contacting her, and the chat became less active.

In reality, we may encounter people like this, and the most important thing in interpersonal communication is mutual respect. If someone can’t stand seeing others do well, they must have a problem with their character.

In life, we will encounter all sorts of people, and some can become close friends, while others will only pass by our lives. Although we can’t choose who we meet, we can choose who we interact with.

Don’t have a heart that plots against others, but have a heart that defends against others. When dealing with someone with bad intentions, we should learn to stay away from them as soon as possible. It’s not wrong to learn to distinguish between people, and kindness should be reserved for those who deserve it. We don’t need to waste our time and energy on people with bad intentions.

Only when you understand these points can you interact with others more effectively and avoid getting hurt.

Loves to Talk Behind People’s Backs

People like this can’t stand seeing others do well, and interacting with them will only make you feel more anxious and frustrated because they’re full of negative energy. The more time you spend with them, the more harm you’ll suffer.

They only care about themselves and never consider others’ feelings. The longer you interact with them, the more harm you’ll suffer.

Ungrateful

As Chekhov said, “It’s easier to ask for help from the poor than from the rich.”

People who are ungrateful are the most toxic, and interacting with them will only make you feel used. Gratitude is something we should cultivate in our daily lives, and only then will we attract more people who are willing to help us.

When someone is ungrateful, no matter how much you do for them, it’s all in vain because they only care about their own interests. If you encounter someone like this in real life, you should learn to stay away from them as soon as possible.

Only Cares About Personal Gain

As Aristotle said, “The ultimate value of life lies in being aware and thinking, not just surviving.”

In this world, there aren’t many people who truly wish you well. Everyone has their own interests, and in reality, it’s hard to find someone who truly cares about you. It’s not wrong to want to improve yourself, but in reality, people who are too focused on personal gain are also very cunning. There’s a saying that goes, “When the benefit is gone, the relationship ends.”

Thinking about it, this saying is not wrong because relationships built on personal gain are not reliable. People like this won’t put you first and won’t treat you sincerely. Instead, they’ll use various tactics to manipulate you. If you encounter someone like this, you should learn to stay away from them as soon as possible.

Life is a big adventure for each of us, and the people we meet are all part of our destiny.

However, the people you interact with will shape who you become, so the environment is crucial. On the path of life, we should always maintain a kind heart, but kindness should be reserved for those who deserve it. Only then will your life journey be more brilliant. If you encounter bad people, you’ll only end up hurting yourself.

Therefore, learning to distinguish between people is also very important in reality.