When you see this title, you might think, “Isn’t silence just about talking less and doing more?”
Actually, different people have different understandings of this phrase. In real life, why is silence the greatest self-respect? The answer is quite simple.
Not long ago, a friend sent me a letter, and here’s what she wrote:
My husband and I have been married for 7 years. Before marriage, I had my own career, but after getting married, I chose to give up my career to be a full-time housewife. After 7 years of marriage, I gave birth to a boy and a girl. I thought my sacrifices would earn me more love from him, but our married life turned out to be completely different from what I had imagined.
After getting married, I was the one taking care of the kids every day, with endless household chores. Every time the kids cried at night, I was the one who got up to feed them. The period after giving birth was the most exhausting time of my life. Because I had kids, my body shape also changed, and every time we went out with friends, he wouldn’t want to take me along.
Due to the trivial matters in life, we also had constant quarrels. In this marriage, I was the one who suffered the most. I thought my sacrifices would earn me more love, but after giving so much, I discovered that I was the one who got hurt. To seek his love, I was like a crazy woman, talking to him nonstop, hoping he would love me a little more.
However, no matter what I did, I found it was all in vain. The more I spoke, the more he disliked me. Just a few days ago, we even got divorced due to too many conflicts.
After the divorce, I realized that in marriage, it’s not about talking more to make the other person understand you. If you talk nonstop like a nagging wife, you’ll only lose value in a man’s eyes.
As a woman, don’t bother about whether a man loves you or not. Just focus on being a better person every day. If someone loves you, they will naturally love you. If they don’t, no matter how much you shout, they won’t love you.
In real life, many women may face similar problems. For each of us, shouting is not the solution to any problem. Sometimes, silence can be a more powerful counterattack.
The Silent Person is More Self-Respecting
Whitman once said, “If you don’t respect others, you’re not respecting yourself.”
Why do some people talk nonstop but still can’t get others’ appreciation? The answer is simple. Others’ respect for you comes from your respect for them. Sometimes, being a good listener is also a person’s ability. When you know how to listen to others, they will also learn to respect you.
So, talking less and doing more is not a bad thing. Those who know how to be silent are more self-respecting.
Some people might think that silence is a bad thing, but appropriate silence can actually add points to your interpersonal relationships.
We don’t need to talk nonstop in front of others or prove ourselves to them. Silence represents a person’s character and quality. Only when you respect yourself can you earn more respect from others.
Talking less and doing more is not a bad thing. A person’s strength is far greater than their boasting. If you’re always bragging about yourself, you’ll eventually be disliked by others.
The Silent Person is More Confident
Balzac once said, “Who respects themselves will earn respect from others.”
In real life, we’ll meet all sorts of people. Some are eloquent, while others are silent. Some might say that eloquent people are naturally more intelligent, but is that really true? The answer is no.
Sometimes, silent people have stronger willpower than others.
I have a friend who always says the least when we chat. At first, we thought he wasn’t sociable, but later, we discovered that he’s actually a good listener.
Gorky once said, “Those who respect others shouldn’t talk about themselves.”
In real life, we’ll meet all sorts of people. Every person has something worth learning from. Silent people are usually very calm and strong in the face of life’s challenges because they know how to endure.
That’s why silence is the greatest self-respect. The fundamental reason is that silent people respect others more. In our interactions with others, we don’t need to talk nonstop or prove ourselves to anyone. The only thing we need to do is focus on being a better person.
Silent people deeply understand this principle, so they prove themselves through actions. In their world, pleasing themselves is the most important thing, because they know how to live for themselves and truly respect themselves. Only those who truly respect themselves can earn respect from others in real life.
And silence is also a manifestation of self-confidence.