A few years ago, I met my friend’s sister, who was struggling with a heartbreaking love affair. She was deeply in love with a man who was destined to be out of her league, and she couldn’t help but fall deeper into the abyss.

However, many things in life are inevitable, and eventually, she made the painful decision to let go. That day, we drank together, and she cried her heart out, hurt to the core, and we were all frightened by the power of love.

But years later, when I saw her again, I was amazed by her radiant appearance. At 31, she had already experienced a lot in life, and although she couldn’t be said to have gone through all the trials and tribulations, she was more elegant and refined than before.

Time seemed to have forgotten her.

My friend said that after a period of depression, she suddenly transformed into a completely different person.

In the past, she was content with a simple job, and her greatest wish was to be a good wife and mother, living a comfortable life. But now, she can be summed up in one sentence:

“A person’s best state is when their eyes are full of stories, their face is free of worries, they don’t envy anyone, they don’t mock anyone, and they don’t rely on anyone. They quietly work hard, swallow their pride, and live their own way.”

When talking to her, I realized that she was not afraid to discuss her past, and she didn’t shy away from her previous mistakes. She believed that life is about growing through experiences, and she didn’t blame others or herself for her past investments. She accepted her past and was confident in her future self.

And someone who is getting better will have these signs; let’s see if you have them.

Understanding the Importance of Earning Money, But Not Being a Slave to It

Yi Shu wrote in “Xi Bao”: “I’ve always hoped to receive a lot of love, to be loved and to love. If there’s no love, having a lot of money is also good. If there’s neither, I still have my health, and I’m not poor.”

Many people only see the first two sentences, but they don’t understand that if you don’t have love and money, having health is still a hope.

Unfortunately, Yi Shu eventually became a slave to money. She was once an idealistic girl who worked hard to get into Cambridge, but the high tuition fees left her struggling. She thought about selling herself to pay for her education, but in the end, she fell into the trap of wealth and lost herself.

There are many girls like her who have dreams but fail in reality, eventually straying from their original intentions.

Money is important, but only earning it through your own hard work can make you feel more secure.

Like Yi Shu, having a lot of wealth but losing your youth is not worth it.

How much money does it take to be happy? The answer is beyond many people’s imagination.

You don’t need a lot of money, but you can’t be too poor either. You should be able to afford what you want within your means, have a safety net when you’re sick or injured, and be able to live a peaceful life.

Because you have money, you don’t need to compromise for a steady income, and your life won’t be controlled by material possessions. You’ll have the time and heart to appreciate the beauty of life.

Only when you feel the true existence of your life can you discover more beauty in life, rather than being trapped by money.

Learning to Truly Love Someone

Love doesn’t always follow the rules, and sometimes you love someone who doesn’t appear at the right time, or they appear at the right time, but you’re not ready.

This is a common phenomenon in life, and you need to learn to accept it calmly, let go of your obsession, and move on.

You should know that truly loving someone doesn’t mean being tied down together; it means respecting each other’s opinions. If someone already has a partner or is married, then letting go is the best choice.

If you can’t be with the one you love, then silently bless them from the heart. Comparing to insisting on being together, which can cause great harm, it’s better to let go.

You don’t need to hold on to something that doesn’t belong to you; just appreciate it from afar.

Life is short, and there’s no need to make things difficult for yourself or others. Letting go is the greatest liberation.

People often have too many disappointments in life.

Recently, many people have been talking about the “inner卷” in love, which means doing everything to please the other person, making unconditional sacrifices. However, is this kind of love what you really want?

Love is a beautiful thing, but once it’s confined to a framework, it becomes restricted and difficult to be free.

Moreover, in a long-term relationship, if one person is always giving while the other is receiving, is this kind of love still beautiful? It’s a question that only those who have experienced it can understand.

Pleasing others and making sacrifices won’t bring you love. Instead of being insecure in love, it’s better to be your true self. Only when you’re strong can you have nothing to fear.

Don’t be afraid to love, and don’t be afraid of being hurt. Face your emotions calmly, and only give to those who are worthy.

When you understand this, you’ll lower your expectations of love and won’t fall into the trap of “inner卷.”

Mastering Self-Discipline

After my friend’s sister got over her heartbreak, she went through a period of binge eating and drinking, leading to weight gain and health problems.

When she finally realized her mistakes, she began to change herself, transforming from a carefree person to someone who takes responsibility.

She used to think that freedom meant doing whatever she wanted, but she realized that excessive freedom can only lead to more troubles.

Life is full of difficulties, and it’s these challenges that help us grow and become better people.

As long as you’re alive, you should never give up on self-improvement, because life is a journey of constant growth, and no one can stay in the same place forever.

You’ll never know what heights you can reach unless you try.

The most frightening thing is to wake up. My friend’s sister had a dream, and her life underwent a drastic change.

In the process of changing herself, she endured many hardships that others couldn’t bear, and she had doubts and confusion.

However, when she finally overcame the darkest period, she felt a sense of accomplishment due to her self-discipline.

Life is a journey of growth, and you need to learn to let go of some things and develop good habits. Only then can you truly be free and become the person you want to be.

And those who dare to change, believe in self-discipline, and can ultimately find their own light.

Life is a journey of chasing dreams, and on this road, you can have many dreams. Those dreams that lead you forward are your true salvation.

Everyone gets lost, and we all hesitate at the crossroads. Some people choose to give up, while others choose to move forward. But only those who persevere to the end can laugh with the most joy.

The past may not be perfect, but who can avoid making mistakes? It’s precisely because of these mistakes that we can become better and stronger.

Some things need to be forgotten, and you shouldn’t get stuck in them. You should keep a calm heart and not be too entangled.

Because life is already difficult, you can try to add some sweetness to it, keep a positive attitude, and treat every moment as a new beginning.

No matter what happens, life goes on, and no matter who you leave behind, life can’t stop.

I hope you can become such a person.