Someone once asked me, “What do you think is the biggest regret in love?”
At that time, I didn’t think much about it. From an ordinary person’s perspective, most people regret that in the end, the two couldn’t be together.
But when he heard my answer, he disagreed. He said the real regret is not about the two not ending up together, but about the lack of love from the bedmate and the absence of a home with the loved one.
When I heard this, I deeply resonated because it struck a chord with me.
In the movie “Forgiveness,” the female lead had a notebook to record the number of times she forgave her boyfriend. Sometimes he had a bad temper or led them astray. After many instances, she finally broke up with him. When the boyfriend heard the news, he was incredulous.
Because he thought she was being unreasonable. But the day before, she had an abortion alone, crying beside him all night, and he was oblivious to it all. In relationships, many things can either nurture or destroy them.
When someone forgives you time and time again, it shows deep love. But sometimes, people fail to appreciate it and take it for granted. In love, we often feel distant from happiness even when we have it.
Only when we lose it do we realize its true value, which can be both genuine and painful. Love comes with many regrets. Some people get married for convenience, not love.
After marriage, even as bedmates, the love between the two may lack magic. This kind of love is unfair because if you don’t truly like someone enough, don’t choose them after weighing the pros and cons.
This kind of love is unreliable. It’s selfish to let others pay for your choices. This is the most regrettable kind of love.
I remember seeing a scene in a TV drama where the groom, at his wedding, stopped midway through the vows and said into the microphone to his ex, “Not being able to marry you in this lifetime is my lifelong regret.”
All the guests were surprised. The bride, standing opposite him, was heartbroken and left the wedding, abandoning the bouquet.
Love should be pure. If you can’t let go of someone in a relationship, don’t start another one. It would harm three people. Don’t involve innocent people in a relationship that isn’t theirs.
It’s unfair to the other person. Our regret in relationships isn’t about two people not being together but about not loving the one by our side enough and the one we love not becoming our only one.
We say it’s not a regret even if two people can’t be together because they once loved each other deeply. Even if they part ways, they have no regrets because they shared so much beauty.
But for another kind, if two people seem to lack deep love and yet start inexplicably, it’s unfair to anyone. So, when facing a relationship, we should consider carefully. If you can’t give an explanation, don’t start, and don’t make promises.
There are many regrets in love, and the real regret isn’t loving and losing but gaining without love.
Those in a relationship with love but not mutual love will eventually part ways. Love is the foundation of everything and a source of happiness. Only with this kind of love can a relationship grow. Without even basic love, there can be no long-lasting love.
So, the biggest regret in love should be the lack of love from the bedmate and the absence of a home with the loved one. When facing love, be rational. Cherish those by your side and forget about the impossible ones. Only then can you find your happiness.
Happiness has no standard. If you know how to create it, happiness will always be around you. Sometimes we want too much, not realizing happiness is within reach. We should seize the happiness that is easily accessible.
If you have someone willing to be with you unconditionally, don’t make them sad. Love is mutual. One person’s efforts won’t last.
If you love, love deeply. If not, don’t hurt. Don’t let love be a regret; let it be a beautiful memory so you can capture more happiness. May all lovers eventually be together, and may everyone learn to cherish those by their side and learn to love.