In this world, we may have two or three close friends who are like guardian angels in our lives, and our bond with them grows stronger over time.

However, we also have some hypocritical friends who seem very friendly on the surface. They often say nice things to us, but when we face difficulties, we realize they are disloyal and unreliable.

As humans, we need to learn to judge whether someone is truly good to us. Don’t let others manipulate you with their words and end up getting hurt badly.

People who often say these three phrases to you may appear very loyal on the surface, but in reality, these words are not trustworthy, and neither is the person saying them.

To be wise, sometimes you shouldn’t offend others when their words don’t match their actions, but you should also know when to keep your distance.

“I can help you with everything except this matter.”

When my dad was young, he had some friends who often said to him, “I can help you with everything except this matter.”

I remember once when my grandma fell seriously ill, my dad searched for a good doctor everywhere. Finally, he found one who needed to visit our home one night to treat my grandma. Since my dad couldn’t drive at that time, he asked a friend to pick up the doctor.

Thinking this friend was good at driving, my dad called him for help. But the friend was busy playing games and couldn’t assist. This friend couldn’t help my dad during a critical situation like my grandma’s illness, so he probably wouldn’t help in the future either.

Sometimes people pretend to care but actually don’t want to help. They say such things to deceive others, making them think the person is incapable of helping when, in reality, they just want to see you struggle.

So, when you hear these words, be smart enough not to seek help from such people in the future. They may seem loyal on the surface, but when it comes to crucial matters, they will disappear.

“You treat me this time, and I’ll treat you next time.”

I have a friend who met another close friend while out. They became inseparable, and the things this friend said always touched my friend’s heart, making him believe that they were true companions.

Whenever they dined together, this friend would always say, “You treat me this time, and I’ll treat you next time.” Sometimes, he even promised to treat my friend to a lavish meal in the future. Naive and caring, my friend agreed.

Later, my friend noticed that this person often didn’t pay after meals, leading him to suspect that the friend was using him. Gradually, my friend distanced himself from this person.

Some people always try to take advantage of others while saving face and planning to exploit them in the future. In life, if someone repeatedly avoids paying for meals, they are definitely unreliable and could be freeloading off you.

Talking about money can strain relationships, but if you keep footing the bill for others, you’ll end up exhausted. Making money is hard, and no one wants to be swindled out of their hard-earned cash.

“Don’t worry, I’ll clean up the mess for you in the future.”

Sometimes, when a friend sees you in a conflict, they might promise, “Don’t worry, I’ll clean up the mess for you in the future.”

I once had a friend like this when I was young. During a petty quarrel with someone, this friend encouraged me to fight, assuring me that they would handle the aftermath.

Naive and influenced by their words, I ended up fighting the other person, causing them to bleed from their nose.

Later, the other person’s mother came to school, publicly slapped me in front of everyone, and knocked me down. Shockingly, my friend didn’t come to my aid.

From that moment, I realized that some people’s words are unreliable. They may want you to get into trouble rather than seeking justice for you.

In life, never trust someone who encourages you to fight. If someone insists on fighting and wants you to do the same, they probably wish to see you punished.

One should remember that in times of trouble, only family can be relied upon. Some people may say many things that seem reasonable and touching, making you think they are your good friends and trustworthy. However, actions speak louder than words. If someone only talks but doesn’t act, they are definitely untrustworthy.

Therefore, it’s crucial to be smart in life and have the discernment to see through people.