“The greatest happiness in life is finding someone who loves you, and you love them back.”

However, sometimes the person you love doesn’t love you back, and the person who loves you might not be the one you like.

Many people rush into marriage without truly loving their partner, just because they think it’s suitable.

You start making excuses for yourself, causing trouble for others, and making yourself unhappy.

Some people always feel unbalanced, thinking their partner isn’t as good as others, and their marriage isn’t that great.

Even if the couple was deeply in love at first, they start comparing their partner with others after marriage, feeling like their partner isn’t as good.

This imbalance in the heart leads to many troubles for both yourself and others.

Smart women in marriage often learn to see the good in their partner and find their inner balance.

As a journalist once said:

“Over 100 women were interviewed, and those who have a happy marriage share a common trait.”

That trait is recognizing one’s own shortcomings, finding beauty in marriage, and acknowledging the good in others.

Cherish What You Have Before It’s Too Late

I still remember what my middle school language teacher told us:

“People often realize the importance of cherishing only after they’ve lost something, but by then, it’s too late to regret.”

Like what Stephen Chow said:

“I once had a beautiful love in front of me, but I didn’t cherish it, and now I regret it.”

Humans have two flaws: one is shortsightedness, focusing too much on immediate benefits and missing the bigger picture.

Another flaw is underestimating the people in front of us, which can lead to regrets.

Life teaches us to appreciate what we have, and as we mature, we realize that the people around us are the most important.

Maybe you think your husband isn’t as good as others, but he’s the one who gives you support and happiness, who gives you a family and care.

Others may have their own good qualities, but in marriage, happy couples cherish the person they have, giving their best to each other, and receiving the same in return.

I used to feel unbalanced, thinking my husband wasn’t as handsome or rich as others.

So, I would get angry with myself and others.

One day, my mom told me:

“I dreamed about your dad last night. He was walking on a bridge, turned around, and waved at me, saying, ‘I’m leaving, take care of yourself.’ I realized how much I cherish him.”

My mom’s dream made me feel a pang in my heart, and in that moment, I understood the importance of cherishing.

A beautiful marriage is about cherishing what you have, hoping that everything will be okay when you finally appreciate what you have.

In the vast sea of people, some may miss their chance after getting married, constantly arguing and never having a good day, only to regret it when they’re old.

If you haven’t crossed the line or lost too much, why not cherish your partner and speak kindly?

Half of Life’s Happiness Comes from Within

Life has many factors, but often, it’s not because we’ve encountered difficulties, but because we create our own troubles.

When we hear negative words or pessimistic language, we start to think a lot and feel like the world is dark.

But when we hear kind words from others, we think they’re just trying to comfort us.

That’s why we often get lost in our own way.

Life isn’t always that bitter, and marriage isn’t that bad. Keeping a good attitude is crucial.

Some women in marriage are very demanding, but they get a lot in return, making others envious.

Some people think these women found their happiness when they got married, but sometimes happiness needs to be created by the woman herself, bit by bit.

There’s no shortcut to happiness in this world, and marriage is no exception.

Only by keeping a calm heart, making peace with yourself, and learning to appreciate your partner, can you achieve inner balance and happiness.

Nobody’s Perfect, Including Yourself

When a woman complains about her husband, she should also reflect on herself.

We’re all imperfect, including your husband and yourself.

Since humans are imperfect, we spend our lives trying to become better, and as we grow, we see others grow as well.

Sometimes you might think someone else’s partner is better than yours, making you feel unbalanced. Then, you should look for your own shortcomings.

The most beautiful love is when two people grow together, not when they criticize each other.

No matter if it’s in love or marriage, if two people grow together, you’ll find that they’ll become better and better.

But if you go in the opposite direction, focusing on criticizing each other, you’ll become more and more incompatible.

Smart women know that when they marry someone, they should accept them for who they are. If the partner hasn’t made any fundamental mistakes, don’t try to divorce or argue with them.

A woman should not only make herself better but also help her partner grow. That’s the key to a successful marriage.

In this world, every person has their struggles, and only by learning to empathize and understand each other can we achieve long-lasting happiness.