Speaking is an art. Some people can make you feel like a spring breeze when they open their mouths, while others can make you want to escape.

When people communicate, it’s like looking in a mirror. Your attitude when speaking determines how others treat you.

As the old saying goes, “Stretch out your hand, and don’t hit a smiling face.” If you’re polite to others, they’ll naturally be polite back. But if you’re aggressive, don’t expect them to smile at you.

The way you speak can predict your happiness in the second half of life.

Learn to Listen

Learning to listen carefully is a reflection of personal cultivation. Understanding others and chatting about common topics is a sign of high emotional intelligence.

Emily and Jack met through a mutual friend. During their first meeting, they were both a bit shy, and the conversation was quite calm. Jack’s gentle and courteous demeanor left a good impression on Emily.

On their second meeting, they agreed to meet at an outdoor barbecue spot, where they watched an NBA game on TV. Jack completely changed his behavior, focusing solely on the game and ignoring Emily’s attempts to change the subject.

Despite Emily’s efforts to steer the conversation, Jack continued to talk about the game, even on the way home. Emily eventually couldn’t take it anymore and snapped, “People who like basketball are simple-minded.” Jack retaliated, “Girls are boring creatures.”

In the end, they parted ways, leaving a bad impression on each other.

Looking back, both Jack and Emily did something wrong. Emily didn’t respect Jack’s interests and didn’t know how to listen carefully, making Jack feel disrespected.

Jack, on the other hand, ignored Emily’s feelings, indulging in his own world, which is a big no-no in communication.

Although upbringing may not always be visible, it can be revealed through small actions in daily life.

Speak with caution, joke with moderation, work with ease, and speak with virtue. Don’t exhaust your words; if you do, you’ll have no friends. Don’t be overly critical; if you are, people will keep their distance. Respect others without being overly humble; if you are, you’ll lose dignity.

This is the principle of speaking and doing things.

Pay Attention to Your Attitude

A video went viral online recently.

The video showed a female shop owner scolding a customer, saying, “If you can’t afford it, don’t come out to play.” Not only was her attitude terrible, but she also cursed at the customer, making a personal attack.

The video sparked heated discussions, with many netizens condemning the shop owner’s behavior.

However, the shop owner claimed she was framed. It turned out that the couple who filmed the video had come to the store, claiming they would buy something if the shop owner taught them how to take a good video. The shop owner patiently taught them, and the girl even recorded a video to upload to various short-video platforms.

When the girl was about to leave, the shop owner asked if she didn’t want to buy anything, and the girl just walked out without saying a word. The shop owner asked, “Do you have a problem?”

Later, the man returned to the store, provoking the shop owner, and then recorded a video, editing it to make the shop owner look bad.

After the incident, the shop owner was ordered to close the store for a month, and the couple received a lot of online criticism.

In reality, the way you express yourself can lead to different results and even reveal your upbringing.

Take doing business, for example. When customers ask about prices or try out products and then leave, it’s a common occurrence.

A smart shop owner, however, will patiently explain the reasons behind the prices, leaving a good impression on customers and potentially attracting more business.

Speaking is an art; knowing when to speak and when not to is a sign of wisdom.

Everyone has a temper, but controlling it is a virtue. Life is not about big conflicts; taking small steps back can bring peace. The wise don’t argue; time will reveal the truth.

Life is full of troubles and difficulties, but as long as you maintain your dignity and look at the world with a positive attitude, the world will be full of hope for you.

Don’t Be Overbearing

As the saying goes, “One kind word can warm people for three winters, while one cruel word can hurt people for six months.”

In social interactions, you must know what to say and what not to say.

When communicating, remember to leave some emotional space, don’t spread rumors about others, and never use language to hurt others.

As a person, you should leave room for others, don’t be too critical, and don’t comment on others with emotions.

Want to live a comfortable life? Don’t stop learning new things, and your horizons will broaden. The more you learn, the more topics you’ll have to discuss with others.

Your words represent your knowledge, social circle, and quality of life.

So, never limit your life, and when your horizons expand, your world will naturally become bigger, and you’ll live a happier life!