Living a respectable life never involves complaining. We all aspire to live with dignity. Some pursue physical dignity, some seek inner dignity, and the highest realm is to have both.

Throughout life, we may encounter frustrating situations, but no matter what, always remember to live with dignity.

Smart women keep quiet about these frustrating matters, while some women with low emotional intelligence spread them everywhere.

Keep Family Secrets

Some people, after encountering frustrating situations, like to share these family matters with others.

Every family has its own difficulties, so sometimes it’s best not to share everything with others, as they may not understand and may even ridicule you.

Sometimes, we share a lot of family matters with others, but in reality, they don’t truly understand us.

I have an aunt who lives a happy life and things are going well at home. Yet, she loves to gossip about trivial matters to others.

My aunt often sits with others and talks about family matters, sometimes painting a very negative picture of her family members.

By speaking ill of her family, her words got back to them, causing conflicts within the family.

Those who sowed discord told the aunt only good things in front of her but badmouthed the family behind her back. This led to anger, and the family’s conflicts became uncontrollable.

In the end, many things happened, and the once happy family was torn apart. The aunt divorced her husband, and their two children ended up separated.

Sometimes, “loose lips sink ships.” You might think sharing some small family matters is harmless, but some people have ulterior motives and blow things out of proportion.

In this world, few want to see you doing well, so sometimes, when you face frustrating situations, it’s best not to casually share them, especially family matters.

Many conflicts with family members arise from misunderstandings. If someone sows discord, conflicts easily arise in the family.

Just like this aunt, a family that was once happy was destroyed because she liked to gossip about family matters outside.

When things happen, we often find them exaggerated. But many things stem from small matters.

The words we speak, though seemingly small, can be harmful if done repeatedly.

Empathy Comes from Shared Experiences

In this world, only those who have shared experiences can truly empathize.

So, when we face frustrating situations, don’t share them casually with others. They can’t understand our feelings as they haven’t walked in our shoes.

I remember once sharing something important with a friend, but they found it boring as they had never experienced it themselves.

Sometimes, when you share something important with a friend, and they ignore it, you might feel embarrassed.

A smart woman knows to maintain her composure in front of everyone. If someone doesn’t want to hear about your frustrations, don’t share with them.

In today’s materialistic world, everyone is busy and under pressure. Sharing your frustrations may not resonate with others.

Don’t assume that just because you’re close, you can share everything with someone.

If they can’t empathize with you, they won’t truly understand.

Avoid Becoming a Grumbler

Some women, after marriage, constantly complain about their husbands and in-laws, becoming like grumblers.

Some women quarrel with their husbands or have conflicts with their mothers-in-law and discuss these matters with others.

When women talk to others, they may pretend to listen, but once the woman leaves, they start gossiping.

By speaking ill of their husbands to others, they also belittle their husbands. If others hear negative things about someone’s husband, they may lose respect for him.

Many women enjoy speaking ill of their husbands. In this world, many people believe in gossip.

Good news doesn’t travel, but bad news spreads far. Smart women don’t speak ill of their husbands or mothers-in-law in front of others.

Only women with low emotional intelligence would gossip like this.

Women must remember that in times of difficulty, it’s their family who stands by them.

So, refrain from speaking ill of your loved ones to outsiders in a moment of anger; it will only hurt those closest to you.

Spreading these Matters Everywhere will only Harm Yourself, not Benefit

Smart people don’t easily reveal their sorrows. There’s no need to show your inner pain to others as it damages your image.

A woman who often talks about her own affairs outside, even if these words aren’t meant to attack others but just to vent, can still damage her image.

I once chatted with a classmate who loved complaining about things around her, sharing annoying things with others.

At first, I thought she just liked to talk, but later, I found her to be very troublesome.

This classmate liked to share many things with many people, leading to fewer friends around her.

Everyone should know when to draw the line. Sometimes, when you share too much with others, they may grow weary of listening.

When faced with frustrating situations, it’s better to learn to deal with them internally. Speaking out may backfire.