Since ancient times, biased parents have always existed in the original family.

Parents tend to favor the weaker one, as the weaker one needs more attention, both mentally and financially. On the contrary, the more independent and sensible a person is, the less attention they receive. Parents may even ask the sensible child to help the weaker one.

However, parental bias is a vicious cycle. The more parents favor the weaker one, the weaker they become, making it hard for them to become independent and sensible. The more independent one becomes, the more independent they will be, and the more resentful they will feel towards their parents.

Romain Rolland once said: “Maternal love is a huge flame.”

Parents may never realize that their bias can cause irreparable damage to their children’s hearts.

Shen Mo’s original family was like this. Her parents always favored her younger brother, a fact that she observed and remembered since childhood.

The more her parents favored her brother, the harder Shen Mo worked. She tried to prove her excellence and yearned for her parents’ equal love.

However, as Shen Mo became more outstanding and independent, she became the excuse for her parents to favor her brother even more.

Her parents always said to her: “As the older sister, you should accommodate your younger brother, you should protect him.”

Every time she heard this, Shen Mo would scream in her heart: “If I protect my brother, who will protect me? Who will care for me?”

With each hurtful experience, Shen Mo grew stronger and more independent. She pursued what she wanted on her own, never relying on her parents or seeking their love again.

Some biased parents often say, “Both the palm and the back of the hand are flesh.” But in reality, their words and actions are completely different.

“Parents and children are the best gifts to each other.”

But in Shen Mo’s family, her excellence was forced out of her.

Because if you are not strong, no one will care for you; if you are not independent, no one will pay attention to you; if you are not excellent, no one will support you.

The problem is, the biased party often feels that everything is justified, and the parents are unaware of their bias.

Little do they know, such parents will only cause more harm to their children, and this harm will linger with the children for a lifetime.

If parents can acknowledge their mistakes and listen to their children’s emotional needs, that is the best love they can offer.

Through her hard work, Shen Mo bought a house in the city. On the other hand, her brother, under their parents’ bias, did not graduate from high school and started working.

He kept changing jobs, always relying on their parents. He had a girlfriend, but due to the lack of a house, their marriage plans never materialized.

Then, their mother said to Shen Mo: “Daughter, it’s a waste for you to live alone in the big house. Let your brother use it for his wedding.”

Shen Mo was upset and asked her mother: “Mom, how can you say that? I bought the house myself, why should I give it to him?”

Her mother replied: “He is your brother, you’ve always accommodated him since childhood. Besides, you’re not married yet, so let him use it for now!”

Finally understanding her parents’ bias towards her brother, Shen Mo reluctantly agreed and said: “Fine, you can give it to him. But give me a million dollars, family matters should be clear.”

Lastly, Shen Mo left a message: “You favor my brother, I have nothing to say. Don’t involve me in this in the future.”

Russell once said: “For children, the charity of parents is more reliable and worthy of trust than any other emotion.”

Parents are the closest people to their children, even if they are biased or undervalue themselves, they are still their parents.

We must repay our parents and care for them.

We cannot change our parents’ bias, but we cannot indulge it either.

Even in front of parents, we should stand by our principles and make them aware of our boundaries. Otherwise, your indulgence will be seen as approval by your parents.

If you never point out the wrongness of your parents’ bias, they will never realize their mistake and may even think their actions are correct.

They believe that all their children, especially the less capable ones, feel their love on the surface. The more capable ones do not need their help, as their love is buried deep in their hearts.

If parents could realize the saying “The favored one is fearless,” they might not be biased.

Parents and children are inseparable. This parent-child relationship is fate and a gift from above.

To improve the relationship, communication is key.

As children, we should express our demands and doubts to our parents. As parents, we should treat our children equally.

A family divided will not prosper.

For a harmonious and happy family, the love between children and parents should be the strongest, most selfless, and purest.