In any relationship between people, it’s all about various interests, mutual constraints, mutual needs, and balancing each other.

This applies to marriages as well as relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.

Many say the most challenging relationship is that between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law. When they get along, the family is harmonious. If not, there is constant conflict.

Many people think about how to avoid this relationship rather than how to manage it.

What kind of relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is the safest?

They tend to keep a certain distance and always be polite.

After marriage, many choose to live separately to avoid conflicts, which reduces disagreements.

But can living separately truly reduce conflicts and maintain a good relationship?

Not necessarily.

Married life is complex, unexpected things happen, and many unforeseen events occur.

Lucy had just gotten married and was pressured by her in-laws to have children. She was worried about her job and wanted to delay having children. Her mother-in-law said she could take the child back to their hometown if needed.

After Lucy agreed, thinking her mother-in-law would help, she was surprised to find out her mother-in-law complained about taking care of the child and wanted to go back to their hometown to rest.

Lucy and her husband discussed whether her mother-in-law should take the child back to their hometown since Lucy would soon return to work. When they mentioned it to her mother-in-law, she insisted that they should take care of the child themselves.

Lucy was shocked by her mother-in-law’s sudden change in attitude and had no choice but to agree. She had to hire a nanny after her mother-in-law left. Since then, her image of her mother-in-law had changed, and her attitude towards her had also shifted.

To have a good relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, it’s essential to understand that respect for each other as well as helping each other is crucial. Once strangers enter the same family, they should become real relatives.

A good relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is based on caring for each other and treating each other with respect.

In marriage, we often hear that women should respect their in-laws, but few mention that mothers-in-law should also treat their daughters-in-law well.

Any relationship requires mutual effort. If someone wants to be liked, they must make an effort. No one can expect to benefit from a relationship without investing in it.

A mother-in-law’s attitude directly affects the relationship with her daughter-in-law. A cold-hearted mother-in-law won’t have a warm and considerate daughter-in-law.

The biggest fear between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is that the mother-in-law always sees the daughter-in-law as an outsider, while the daughter-in-law finds the mother-in-law bothersome.

Some say, “Don’t treat your daughter-in-law like your own daughter, and don’t treat your mother-in-law like your own mother. Maintain a respectful distance between each other.”

Some people think that keeping a distance is better. But this mindset can lead to a complete estrangement between the two, making it harder to bridge the gap in the future.

Remember, besides principles, there is also human emotion.

Many things are not about principles but about emotions. Without emotions, a family loses its warmth and affection.

Therefore, good relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law require mutual respect and assistance. There may be friction and conflicts at the beginning, but as long as there is sincerity, the outcome will be positive.

Remember: Human emotions are more important than obligations.