When it comes to marriage, Qian Zhongshu once said, “Marriage is like a walled city. Those outside want to get in, while those inside want to get out.”

Looking back now, this statement seems quite accurate.

Some people are very loving before marriage, but once they tie the knot and deal with the realities of life, their feelings change. Real love is pure and beautiful. After marriage, both partners should work together for their family. If they separate over minor disagreements, it hurts not only them but also their children.

John’s mother and father divorced when he was young. John lived with his father after the divorce. His father always told him that his mother had left with someone else. So, John never had good feelings towards his mother.

Even when his mother visited his school many times, John hid and refused to see her.

During parent-teacher meetings at school, his father was always alone.

Seeing other kids being picked up by both parents while he went home alone made John sad. He silently vowed to leave this place when he grew up, live in a bigger city with his father, and never see his mother again.

As time passed, he went to high school and college. It was only after entering college that he realized there might not be a right or wrong in relationships, and his parents’ divorce only proved their incompatibility.

He didn’t harbor as much hatred towards his mother as before, but he firmly rejected the idea of meeting her.

Perhaps with time, he could understand his mother better, but he wasn’t ready yet.

Later, he got a girlfriend. There were significant differences in their family backgrounds, making him feel inferior. To pursue her, he made significant changes.

However, her marriage proposal was unbearable: a $30,000 dowry, a house, and two cars.

John couldn’t afford this and felt distressed. When his father learned about it, he couldn’t provide the money and advised John not to get stuck over this issue.

Feeling misunderstood by his father, John sought help from his mother, hoping to borrow $30,000. After discussing, his mother found his approach too impulsive. John didn’t have a stable job yet, so marrying was premature. She politely refused and even asked him to break up with his girlfriend.

John thought his mother was ruining his happiness. She tried to explain, “Even if you marry now, how will you support a family? Marriage involves many challenges. You’ll understand the pain only after you’re married. I am your biological mom; I won’t harm you.”

Uninterested in his mother’s words, John felt she didn’t want to help him at all. In anger, he told his mother, “You have no right to control me.”

These words pierced his mother’s heart.

In real life, every family has its struggles. Family happiness often depends on the efforts of all members.

Only when you understand the responsibilities of a family will your life be happier.

Home is our sanctuary. If we don’t realize this, we’ll end up battered. Family is everything. Unless absolutely necessary, never rush into divorce.

Harm Between Spouses

Lincoln once said, “A house divided against itself cannot stand.”

Two people come together by fate, but they part due to life’s trivialities. Initially sweet, their relationship crumbles due to life’s challenges.

As the saying goes, a day of love between spouses requires a hundred days of kindness. Meeting each other is fate. Failing to cherish one another leads to a broken relationship.

Harm to Children

Emerson said, “The family is the father’s kingdom, the mother’s world, and the child’s paradise.”

Children are the product of a couple’s love. They are innocent. Lucky children are healed throughout their childhood, while unlucky ones spend their lives healing from it. This shows how crucial a happy family is for children.

Every family faces unique challenges, but family happiness hinges on everyone’s efforts.

Only when you understand your family responsibilities will your life become truly happy. Home is where our happiness lies. Without this understanding, you’ll only end up wounded. Family is key to success. Unless absolutely necessary, never rush into divorce.