There’s a popular saying online:

“Be kind to your loved ones, because when you’re old, you’ll realize that only your loved ones will stay with you; be kind to your loved ones, because the ones who stay with you will only be your loved ones…”

However, this isn’t always the case. As humans, we must be sincere and treat others with kindness.

But not everyone is lucky enough to meet the right person.

Some people only realize when they’re old that:

The person closest to you might not be your spouse, because the two of you might not have any emotional connection, and the other person might be heartless.

When I was a kid, there was an aunt who lived next door. When she was healthy, people from all over would visit her because she was very capable and willing to help others.

Later, this aunt got sick and was paralyzed in bed at 65. As time went by, fewer and fewer people visited her, including her spouse.

The aunt said:

“I’ve lived my whole life, and now I realize that the person closest to me isn’t my spouse. I just want someone to talk to, because I’m all alone and bored in bed.”

Looking at the aunt’s experience, I have to say that people can be difficult, and even those who have lived a whole life might not have it easy.

Love Can’t Withstand the Test

A female lead in a play said:

“People without money are like ghosts, and soup without salt is like water. You’ll slowly realize that a good heart is forever better than a sweet talker.”

People often learn to listen with their ears and judge someone with their ears.

So, in life, there are many people who say sweet nothings, maybe they’re your good friend, maybe they’re your loved one, or maybe they’re just a stranger…

But if someone says nice things to you, you’ll always feel like they’re doing it for you, and you’ll think they’re a good person.

As the saying goes:

“Good advice is hard to take.”

A truly good person might say something that hurts your feelings or makes you feel at a loss.

In love, some people like to say sweet nothings, but when they face real difficulties, they won’t help you.

Some people think that two people are inseparable, but when they’re old, they realize that it was all just an illusion.

Love often can’t withstand the test, although some loves can. But those loves are rare.

Like the aunt who was paralyzed in bed, her spouse didn’t stay with her. Think about it, the person who was with you every day, now doesn’t even want to talk to you. This is because human nature is like that.

I still remember when my grandma passed away. At that time, grandma was very weak, and according to our custom, we had to carry her to the coffin. But grandpa didn’t carry her.

Later, because of this incident, my aunts and uncles all discussed it, and because of this, their attitude towards grandpa changed. They all felt that grandpa didn’t care about grandma.

After grandma passed away, grandpa was with someone else within a month. At that time, I realized that love is fleeting.

When people reach a certain age, they’ll discover that the person closest to them might not be their spouse, but possibly their children.

Because familial love has a blood connection, while romantic love is non-familial and can disappear at any time.

Short-Lived Love Can’t Compare to Long-Lasting Love

A poem says:

“When two people are together for a long time, they’ll realize that it’s not just about the morning and evening.”

Long-lasting love is the most difficult to achieve and the most worth cherishing.

However, in this world, people who don’t forget their original intentions are rare, and most loves are just temporary passions.

What’s most touching isn’t a couple who has traveled the world, but when you’re old, and I’m still holding your hand, never leaving your side.

When the 65-year-old aunt was paralyzed in bed, her spouse didn’t stay with her. I think that’s not just physical torture but also emotional disappointment, which can severely hurt one’s spirit.

Every time we see celebrities or public figures get divorced, people always comment:

“It’s all about each other’s needs; now they’re just going their separate ways.”

In reality, whether it’s celebrities or ordinary people, many people are together because of their needs. When they don’t need each other anymore, they’ll feel like the other person is holding them back, and they’ll leave.

Sometimes sweet talk and short-lived love can’t compare to a long-lasting, gentle stream of love.

Perhaps when people are young, they’ll chase after grand romance, feeling that their life is too dull, and they haven’t found someone to share their life with.

But when a person grows old, they’ll realize that the one who stays with them, like a gentle stream, is the best.

Those who didn’t give you romance when you were young but can stay with you when you’re old, know warmth and cold, and are the ones worth spending a lifetime with.

So when you look at people, don’t look at how many promises they’ve made or how many grand things they’ve done, but look at their attitude towards you when you face important things. Do they stay with you or not?

Take Good Care of Your Body at Any Time

Take good care of your body at any time, and don’t let yourself get hurt first. This will make you suffer the most.

Around us, there are many women who have abortions for men, destroying their bodies, and in the end, they’re left with nothing and are despised by men.

Although society is becoming more open, you’ll still harm your body if you keep having abortions for a man.

So, whether you’re a man or a woman, take good care of your body, for the ones who love you. Make yourself better.

At the same time, don’t think you have a lot of charm, and others will always love you. Even if you become a burden to others, you’ll realize that in this world, you’re often alone, and others will also suffer.

So, when you’re young, accumulate some energy, and exercise your body. This way, when you’re old, you’ll suffer less.

In this life, people are often lonely, and the ones you can rely on might not be your spouse, but yourself.

Sometimes children are also unreliable, so it’s essential to leave a way out for yourself. Although we must be sincere towards others and learn to be someone others can rely on, we must also leave a way out for ourselves.