Throughout history, people who have achieved great things and asked big questions have gone through three stages. The first stage is like “last night, the west wind was blowing fiercely, and I was alone on a high tower, looking out at the endless road.” The second stage is like “my belt is gradually getting wider, but I’m not regretful, for I’ve paid the price of being worn out for someone.” The third stage is like “I’ve searched for you in the crowd a thousand times, and suddenly I turned around, and there you were, in the midst of the bustling streets.”

Any accomplishment requires our effort, and a person’s life is a continuous process of self-cultivation to reach a certain realm.

You may have noticed that some people can do things easily and make friends easily.

There are many people around us who don’t put in much effort, but they can still get along well with others.

Sometimes, we put in a lot of effort, but we end up being seen as bad people in others’ eyes.

Some people can make friends with others by doing just one thing, and they can gain their leaders’ recognition and their colleagues’ trust.

In fact, there are rules in life that can help us get along well with others.

After 30, if you want to be well-liked, you need to master these five iron rules.

Respect Others

People who have reached a certain realm all understand the importance of respecting others and respecting themselves.

Every person in this world needs to be respected by others, which is the most basic rule.

No matter whether someone is a garbage collector or a powerful CEO living in a high-rise building, when they are respected by others, they feel different.

Perhaps we do different jobs, but what we strive for is still to be respected by others.

Just like some people who work hard and study hard, they do so to gain respect from others and to earn respect for themselves and those around them.

So, from this perspective, a person’s entire life is about doing things that earn respect, doing things that give them self-respect, and respecting others is very important.

Those who can get along well with others must respect others. Even if you only respect others, you may not have many friends, but if you never respect others, your relationships will be very poor.

Understand Others

As the writer Mo Yan said, “Everyone has a blind spot. If you can understand me, that would be great!”

Even a writer who can write about anything would hope that others can understand them. How much more so for ordinary people?

In our lives, we are all searching for someone who understands us.

I’m looking for a partner or a friend. If the other person understands me, I feel relieved and feel that the world has become a warmer place.

At any stage of life, we need someone who understands us and can be with us, making us feel very relaxed and at ease.

I remember in high school, I had a friend who was well-liked by everyone. Although I wasn’t a very good person back then, I was able to become good friends with this person.

Because this person was someone who understood others. No matter what others said, they would never argue with them. As a result, many people were willing to talk to this person about their innermost thoughts.

In life, if you want to be well-liked, you need to understand others. When others say something that makes you feel unbelievable, don’t be shocked. This will only scare others away, and they won’t want to talk to you about anything.

Those who can understand others will be well-liked by everyone and will be like a central air conditioner, bringing coolness and warmth to those around them.

Communicate with Others

If you want to be well-liked, you need to communicate with others, which will give you opportunities.

If someone is not good at communicating, even if they have a good personality and treat others well, they will have few opportunities, and naturally, they won’t have many friends.

Those who have many friends are often outgoing people. Outgoing people can make many friends in a class, in a unit, or even when traveling.

So, being an outgoing person and communicating with others can help you make true friends.

By communicating with others, you will understand the different thoughts of different people and learn how to communicate with them better.

In the process of communication, you will also learn how to exchange ideas with others and make friends.

Don’t Do Things That Harm Others

In life, don’t do things that harm others. Doing so will make it hard for you to make friends.

Far-sighted people will never take advantage of others when they’re in trouble or have bad intentions when competing for benefits.

Maybe sometimes you can gain temporary benefits because of your narrow-mindedness, but you won’t gain lifelong benefits.

Some people make their lives better and better, and they never do things that harm others. That’s why they can make their lives better and have many good friends who will help them when they’re in trouble.

Nobody likes to be friends with someone who harms others. Being with such a person makes you feel unsafe.

Treating others with kindness is genuine kindness, and such people will become lifelong friends. Doing things that harm others will make you lose friends.

Improve Yourself

The kind of friends you make depends on the platform you’re on. You make friends because you’re in a certain unit or school, and you meet them there.

Smart people will always improve themselves, making themselves better and better. When you’re in a new environment with new colleagues or classmates, you’ll make many good friends.

Some people may be very kind to others, but they never think about improving themselves. As a result, their social circle is small, and their social status is low. The friends they make are not doing well either.

So, when you make an effort to improve yourself, you’ll enter a new environment and make new friends. When you reach a certain height, you’ll find that the people around you are becoming better and better, and you’ll discover that your social circle is not only large but also of high quality.

Perhaps some people will say that this is being too pragmatic, but that’s just the way it is. When you have some high-quality friends, doing things becomes easier. Sometimes, even if you have many friends, they may not be able to help you when you need them.

High-quality friends can bring you different things, whether in thought or in life, and let you experience different lives.

After 30, if you want to be well-liked, you need to master certain iron rules. Do things with a plan, don’t do things blindly, and communicate with others accordingly.

Being well-liked is not that simple and requires our actions and efforts.